Comments on: Black & Blue Christmas http://lisamurray.com/2008/12/26/black-blue-christmas/ Filmmaker - Artist - Dreamer Tue, 13 Sep 2011 02:04:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Alexandra http://lisamurray.com/2008/12/26/black-blue-christmas/comment-page-1/#comment-39 Alexandra Fri, 26 Dec 2008 09:41:34 +0000 http://lisamurray.com/?p=251#comment-39 Lisa, I´m so sorry to hear, that you had this terrible christmas! Last year I had this kind of christmas, so I know how it feels! A person who is very close to you, should treat you with respect and kindness on your birthday and on holidays! Especially If this person knows YOU and your history!!!! It´s one thing what people SAY and another what they really DO! Look at their actions! And then decide what you have to do! I think it takes a long time to escape our family bullshit! One year we are feeling better about it and the next year it´s all there again. But try to see this as another CHANCE! I know it´s hard but you are strong Lisa and you will get through it! You are not 9 or 12, even if it feels like this at the moment, and even YOU have choosen this person in your life.....even exayctly this feels INSANE! Now it´s time to take a big step! You are ready for it! Okay next year you are in NYC on christmas or in good old germany? ;) Love you Lisa!!!!! Lisa, I´m so sorry to hear, that you had this terrible christmas!
Last year I had this kind of christmas, so I know how it feels!
A person who is very close to you, should treat you with respect and kindness on your birthday and on holidays! Especially If this person knows YOU and your history!!!! It´s one thing what people SAY and another what they really DO! Look at their actions! And then decide what you have to do!
I think it takes a long time to escape our family bullshit! One year we are feeling better about it and the next year it´s all there again. But try to see this as another CHANCE! I know it´s hard but you are strong Lisa and you will get through it! You are not 9 or 12, even if it feels like this at the moment, and even YOU have choosen this person in your life…..even exayctly this feels INSANE! Now it´s time to take a big step! You are ready for it!
Okay next year you are in NYC on christmas or in good old germany? ;)
Love you Lisa!!!!!

]]> By: lonelypond http://lisamurray.com/2008/12/26/black-blue-christmas/comment-page-1/#comment-38 lonelypond Fri, 26 Dec 2008 07:12:07 +0000 http://lisamurray.com/?p=251#comment-38 wow -- next year you should treat yourself to a trip somewhere people know how to do the holidays and just enjoy the atmosphere and try to forget about the black and blue emotional bruises...Alyssa's right about the 12 days of Christmas and I hope you can find a positive holiday experience during them...rather than get caught up in family stuff Gayle and I created our own holiday tradition of a pre/post/during Hannukkah pre Christmas solstice tree trimming extravagnza party which was great fun but seems to have run its course so we took a year off and are considering the next holiday thing...I think continuing to evolve and creating your own traditions is the important thing, although it is really hard to get over hurt. But also note, that this is a bad time of year, too little sun, everyone's tired and it's hard to gather up the energy for spring and a restart. It's important to remember that there are cycles to everything. Anyway, this is a ramble which I hope makes some sense. I wish you an improving holiday season (I've moved my restart to the Chinese New Year myself when I take time to do art meditating on the animal representing the year) and relationship that you feel comfortable in. And you can always spend Christmas here -- I'll lend you my nieces and nephews. wow — next year you should treat yourself to a trip somewhere people know how to do the holidays and just enjoy the atmosphere and try to forget about the black and blue emotional bruises…Alyssa’s right about the 12 days of Christmas and I hope you can find a positive holiday experience during them…rather than get caught up in family stuff Gayle and I created our own holiday tradition of a pre/post/during Hannukkah pre Christmas solstice tree trimming extravagnza party which was great fun but seems to have run its course so we took a year off and are considering the next holiday thing…I think continuing to evolve and creating your own traditions is the important thing, although it is really hard to get over hurt.

But also note, that this is a bad time of year, too little sun, everyone’s tired and it’s hard to gather up the energy for spring and a restart. It’s important to remember that there are cycles to everything.

Anyway, this is a ramble which I hope makes some sense. I wish you an improving holiday season (I’ve moved my restart to the Chinese New Year myself when I take time to do art meditating on the animal representing the year) and relationship that you feel comfortable in. And you can always spend Christmas here — I’ll lend you my nieces and nephews.

]]> By: LisaMurray http://lisamurray.com/2008/12/26/black-blue-christmas/comment-page-1/#comment-37 LisaMurray Fri, 26 Dec 2008 07:08:26 +0000 http://lisamurray.com/?p=251#comment-37 Alyssa, I'm packing my bags as I write this note to you! JFK? hehe Thank you. Your comment actually made me feel a little teeny tiny feeling inside my heart. (Which is huge since I've felt dead inside all day.) I hate feeling like this. I spend large portions of my conscious existence trying to uplift others. I just realized that I need uplifting as well, and especially by those closest to me. I'm not an island. Right? I didn't know that about January 6th. I have always been drawn to the 3 wise men. Yes, it is emotional abuse. And it comes out of the blue. It's probably deep-seated emotional problems that certain people are unwilling to face in themselves. (I'm trying to remain SOMEWHAT vague.) And so that is what brings me to the big question mark moment....if you know your behavior hurts someone who you love, why not work on it? Change it? Try???? I'm exhausted. All I know is that it's taking a toll on me. I feel a deadening of my heart. I'm getting to where I'm not even fighting for it anymore. I feel as dead inside as I sense they do. This isn't good for me. Yet I don't know what to do. I suppose time reveals all, right? Thanks for listening and for commenting. :-) Have a very Merry Christmas!!! I hope to see you at the live chat on Sunday, 12/28 at 2pm EST. I could use your wisdom and love. :-) Alyssa, I’m packing my bags as I write this note to you! JFK? hehe Thank you. Your comment actually made me feel a little teeny tiny feeling inside my heart. (Which is huge since I’ve felt dead inside all day.) I hate feeling like this. I spend large portions of my conscious existence trying to uplift others. I just realized that I need uplifting as well, and especially by those closest to me. I’m not an island. Right? I didn’t know that about January 6th. I have always been drawn to the 3 wise men. Yes, it is emotional abuse. And it comes out of the blue. It’s probably deep-seated emotional problems that certain people are unwilling to face in themselves. (I’m trying to remain SOMEWHAT vague.) And so that is what brings me to the big question mark moment….if you know your behavior hurts someone who you love, why not work on it? Change it? Try???? I’m exhausted. All I know is that it’s taking a toll on me. I feel a deadening of my heart. I’m getting to where I’m not even fighting for it anymore. I feel as dead inside as I sense they do. This isn’t good for me. Yet I don’t know what to do. I suppose time reveals all, right? Thanks for listening and for commenting. :-) Have a very Merry Christmas!!! I hope to see you at the live chat on Sunday, 12/28 at 2pm EST. I could use your wisdom and love. :-)

]]> By: Alyssa http://lisamurray.com/2008/12/26/black-blue-christmas/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Alyssa Fri, 26 Dec 2008 06:41:51 +0000 http://lisamurray.com/?p=251#comment-36 My dearest Lisa, I am so sorry your Christmas Day was not good. I don't even remember mine. I,like you, had a hard time with Christmas as a teen. I lost my big sister at 15, and after that, it was like I lost my parents. I thank God for my little sister who convinced me to do it for them. The cycle is an awful one for you. It reminds me of emotional abuse. Does your significant other know how much holidays mean to you? It does seem very selfish of him. Hey! worse comes to worse, you can come to NY next Christmas ^-^ Christmas isnt over yet though. In the Church (which I rarely follow) the season of Christmas ends Jan6, the day the Wise Men finally showed up. My suggestion. Cry, then find some good wholesome christmas specials and watch them. I personally like a Muppet Family Christmas and John Denver and the Muppets. At this moment in time I want to send you all the love I can muster. No one should make you feel like this. Never Ever. (Hug) ~Squally (aka TheArtsyTuber) My dearest Lisa,

I am so sorry your Christmas Day was not good. I don’t even remember mine. I,like you, had a hard time with Christmas as a teen. I lost my big sister at 15, and after that, it was like I lost my parents. I thank God for my little sister who convinced me to do it for them. The cycle is an awful one for you. It reminds me of emotional abuse. Does your significant other know how much holidays mean to you? It does seem very selfish of him. Hey! worse comes to worse, you can come to NY next Christmas ^-^

Christmas isnt over yet though. In the Church (which I rarely follow) the season of Christmas ends Jan6, the day the Wise Men finally showed up.

My suggestion. Cry, then find some good wholesome christmas specials and watch them. I personally like a Muppet Family Christmas and John Denver and the Muppets. At this moment in time I want to send you all the love I can muster. No one should make you feel like this. Never Ever.

(Hug)
~Squally (aka TheArtsyTuber)

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